The Art of Building Meaningful Connections ∞

People want to connect, people want to feel good and special, but instead of building bridges of love we get pushed away by feelings of betrayal, fear, abandonment, exploitation, distrust and suspicion. 

As soon as this happens we need to take a step back and ask ourselves:

Where are our edges to feel alive in life?

It’s our most challenging seasons that serve as our greatest teachers. 

The reason why a lot of people leave relationships is because the minute they feel seen, their ego says “I’m out”- our ego is constantly looking for away to keep us in a safe container, it leads us to the things we are already great at, like business, work, social life, traveling,...

Although that is not necessarily wrong, it does keeps us away from deep meaningful relationships where we’ll be fully seen. 

The biggest opportunity for our highest growth is in leaving our comfort zone in relationship to one another.

People will trigger us, test us, reveal where we still need to heal over & over again until we learn the lesson. 

And yet, they can also call us forward into our greatest potential for growth at an exponential rate. If we let them. 

We must be willing to lean into our relationships with compassion, honest communication & love, instead of running away the moment we feel annoyed, challenged and triggered. 

Most of our treasured relationships with parents, siblings, friends, significant others do not die from natural causes. They are killed by selfishness, neglect, lack of consideration, lies & secrets. 

Be forgiving. 

Be understanding. 

But don’t be a fool. 

A part of being a mature human being is facing conflict. We so often avoid conflict for our own wellbeing. Don’t run away immediately. 

What if there are buried unraveled ancient forests, spectacular galaxies & the acorn that be becomes the oak? 

There is a natural intelligence for growth that is beyond logic & reason. 

We have a lot of expectations of how others have to react & behave. And if these are not met to our satisfaction we often get defensive, walk away & resent the other. 

Because we confuse safety & comfort with familiarity, we tend to be nice to receive approval, be validated, feel good enough, safe & secure. 

We please people in order to be liked and accepted, even take an opportunistic approach to aim to belong to certain group or tribe. 

Yet if we avoid conflict to keep the peace we start a war inside ourselves. People run from the truth, because it hurts. Then when you confront them with it, they back into a corner, react in anger or get offensive. 

The ego will do anything to protect us and survive a day longer. 

Sometimes we make the error of judging something that is unpleasant as negative or mistake. It isn’t. It is just part of our great hunger for experience. 

Don’t shame yourself for it. 

Simply, let it be. 

It’s all part of our life process and it’s all a sign of growth.

If we raise our vibrations and coming home to honor our feelings, instead of moving away from, we create a space for allowing detachment of the situation and ourselves taken place. 

Instead of judging the other for their feelings and what’s going on, we need to learn to have an open mind & heart, listen to the other side of the story and not take immediate opposition and think we are able to paint the true picture. 

Our resourcefulness is one of the biggest meaning of growth.

The right emotions create the right actions. 

It’s important that we separate person from behavior to build bridges of love. Detach - most often it’s not the person itself which triggers us, but a certain way of behavior which could be anchored in our deep subconsciousness.  

Barely anyone is gonna behave exactly like we imagine, barely anyone is gonna love us exactly as we wish for. 

But there are a few people who can come close to perfect when we open up and share what’s moving us. 

We don’t have to understand every part of everyone, but we can bare in mind they have a history of experiences and eventually overload of emotional baggage to carry which we are unaware of. Let’s try to see situations from their perspective & perception and gain understanding of their love language. 

And there the magic starts to happen in how we treat each other in harmony between us. 

Let’s not resist any points of instability in our life. That instability is just a growing pain, because more consciousness, more love and more light wants to filtrate and pervade all parts of our life. The instability is not a sign of sickness, but of growth. So don’t fret. Instead choose to flow & grow. 

Why not doing something for someone we like from time to time, because it makes him happy? 

Although it might not be in our immediate interest. 

We can try to be nice, but that’s draining. Don’t be nice. Be loving... that’s powerful